Why did a woman write a book about men?
Here is a little additional background information about me before we actually get into the book so you know why and where I am coming from:
I was born in 1954. I am a middle child surrounded by two brothers in a family of five. It seemed as though men surrounded me in my extended family as well with lots of male cousins and uncles and lots of male energy. Yes, I had some female cousins and some aunts, but it seemed as though the men outnumbered the ladies. It also appeared that the men, for the most part, were strong willed, opinionated, and controlling. They ran the households. My oldest brother made fun of me a lot and hit me every chance he could. So men were not my favorite.
Working with men and having done my own work has triggered a new paradigm. As I listen with new ears, I see something that I want to point out. Through these stories and through these hearts you will see strength and the humanness of men. This book is for the men who are struggling with who they are, the men that know who they are, and for the men who just need to hear it from other men what it means to be heartfelt, emotional, creative, and sensitive and how this affects their lives for the good. Seeing men this way will impact each of you and the world around you.
Each individual story and the outcomes can be anyone’s story. The beautiful part is how these men have shifted. They have worked through their histories, discovering wealth, health, and happiness. This book will also emphasize the strategies you can follow to achieve wholeness and peace. Whether you are searching for a new job, a relationship, or understanding, in just one afternoon you can change your direction. Throughout these pages you will see yourself with patience and compassion.
As you begin reading this collection, you may get the feeling this book project took on a life of its own. As the editor and curator, it offered a journey all its own.
When I began my search for contributors, I called on friends, I asked around, and I posted on Facebook. Men came forward, and so did women. The women spoke up for men in their lives. These women’s sincerity—and knowing so many women had men in their lives they knew wanted to share their stories—was lovely.
I think the men who shared their stories realize it’s time to open up. We are at a critical juncture in our history, and the world needs our wonderful husbands, fathers, brothers, employees, and teachers. It’s clear that all of us need to break free of our emotional baggage. Some of it is uncharted territory, and men are doing a great job.
To all the ladies reading this book, I want each of us to realize we have men in our lives willing to share their emotions and their experience. This is a good thing. When I have described the idea of this book to men, it’s been well received. In fact, I often hear a subtle joyfulness in their voices.
As I grow to listen more and more, I appreciate men and their strugglers through this game of life.
Marilyn Shannon, Writer